Lesson 1
“There is a God in heaven who is infinite
and eternal, an everlasting, glorified, exalted Being. He has a tabernacle
of flesh and bones. He is a resurrected and holy and perfected man, and
we are his offspring. We are his spirit children. He lives in the family
unit. We are members of his family. We lived in this premortal life with
him for an infinite period of time” (Bruce R. McConkie, Making Our Calling
and Election Sure, Brigham Young University Speeches of the Year [Provo,
25 Mar. 1969], p. 5).
“Some people believe in instantaneous repentance.
While you can stop doing something instantaneously … , true repentance
occurs when you have demonstrated, through the passage of time, that what
you resolved to do has actually come to pass and [the sin] is truly out
of your life” (Loren C. Dunn, Read, Ponder, Pray, Brigham Young University
Speeches of the Year [Provo, 7 Mar. 1972], p. 4).
“During my early teens a small book or pamphlet titled ‘What Would Jesus Do?’ came into my hands. … The question posed epitomized the desire I had had from my childhood. Countless times as I have faced challenges and vexing decisions I have asked myself ‘What would Jesus do?’ … As I pondered [that] question [I turned] to the scriptures in search of the answer. There in the Gospel as recorded by St. John, I found the clear and certain answer: Jesus would always do the will of his Father. This he himself repeatedly declared … ‘… I do nothing of myself; but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things.
“ ‘And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.’ … (John 7:15, John 7:16, John 7:18; John 8:26, John 8:28, 29; John 10:30). … Having learned that Jesus would always do the will of his Father, my next objective was to find out what Jesus would do to ascertain the will of his Father. Searching the New Testament, I discovered that one thing he did was to thoroughly familiarize himself with what his Father had declared his will to be, as recorded in the Old Testament. That he did this is evidenced by the fact that in his statements as recorded in the New Testament, Jesus quoted or cited scriptures from the Old Testament more than one hundred times.
“Finally, and most importantly, I learned that he communed constantly with his Father through prayer. This he did not only to learn the will of his Father but also to obtain the strength to do his Father’s will. He fasted and prayed. … It would seem that during his earthly ministry he never made a major decision or met a crisis without praying [see Matthew 4:2; Luke 4:2; Luke 6:12-13; Matthew 26:39; Luke 22:42, Luke 22:44]. …
“Relying upon the foregoing and companion scriptures, I decided in my youth that for me the best approach to the solution of problems and the resolving of questions would be to proceed as Jesus proceeded: foster an earnest desire to do the Lord’s will; familiarize myself with what the Lord has revealed on the matters involved; pray with diligence and faith for an inspired understanding of his will and the courage to do it. …
“The most satisfying solutions to problems and the best answers to questions that I have been able to make in my own life, I have arrived at as follows:
“1. From my youth I have searched the scriptures.
“2. I have tried to honestly face the
challenge or question presented with a sincere desire to solve it as Jesus
would solve it.
“3. I have, through diligent study and
prayer, sought to weigh alternatives in light of what I knew about gospel
principles.
“4. I have made a decision in my own mind.
“5. I have then taken the matter to the
Lord, told him the problem, told him that I wanted to do what was right
in his view, and asked him to give me peace of mind if I have made the
right decision” (“What Would Jesus Do?” New Era, Sept. 1972, pp. 4-6).
Marion G. Romney
“Holy Ghost … is the gift of God unto all
those who diligently seek him” (1 Nephi 10:17).
Our Dear Young Friends:
You are blessed and favored of our Heavenly Father to be alive today. The world is full of beauty and opportunities—greater than any other period in the history of mankind. These special years of preparation will be filled with discovery, seeking, finding, growing, stretching, reaching, and learning of God’s plan and what he expects from you, his daughter.
The same world is full of ugliness and evil influences. You will be challenged, tempted, thwarted, and attacked in every way by the plans and persuasions of the adversary.
Our Heavenly Father knows all this and knows you. He has confidence and faith that you will use these years of preparation in being an obedient child of God who can be molded and shaped for the special mission and destiny he would have you fill. Pray always, know your Savior Jesus Christ, study the scriptures, and think of specific ways you can apply the teachings in your life. Live to be worthy of the blessings of the priesthood, be happy, and walk tall with joy and thanksgiving in the light of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
You are surrounded by many who love you and want to protect and guide you—friends, your class officers, adult leaders, your bishopric, your parents and family, and above all Jesus Christ and your Father in Heaven.
May we be included among those who care and love you very much. We pray always that you will be blessed and strengthened in your preparation to live with your Father in Heaven again, for he has invited “all to come unto Christ” (D&C 20:59) “and be perfected in him” (Moroni 10:32).
Affectionately,
Young Women General Presidency
“Happiness does not depend on what happens
outside of you but on what happens inside of you.”
“In the beginning (but not really the beginning—only a moment in the span of existence that is always), I learned of a plan of my Heavenly Father for me and my spirit brothers and sisters. Himself exalted and perfected and holy, our beloved Father wanted us to have a chance to follow his path. His firstborn, our elder Brother, Jesus, would organize a world where we could live and grow and learn to love and truly care. It would be a difficult experience in a world of imperfect men and irrevocable law, and we must choose if we would follow him.
“And so, … I said, ‘Yes.’ And I waited for my turn.
“[Jesus] set about making a world for me and you, the Father’s children. And one day I left a place I cannot remember now to come here, to begin the union of my life with the earth.
“In the hazy brightness that is childhood, there was the first recognition of beauty—the smell of eucalyptus, the first encounters with sea and sun and sand, and fog—wet droplets on my face, a bee, flowers, and cypress trees bent strangely by the wind.
“And as I grew, so the world became more marvelous; and deep inside began the warm, sweet pain that is earth-love.
“[Jesus] made light that falls soft and silvery at night and makes shadow patterns in the wind—light, golden-blue, and gentle in the days of spring sun—and light that spreads its colors first faintly red to orange to golden, to dispel the blue-black that is night—sunrise. And I have eyes to see.
“And he made wind to rustle softly through a thousand leaves, glistening silver-slippery water to sing and stumble on its way to the sea, and birds to fill the morning air with soft flute-tones. And I have ears to hear.
“He made hands to touch in the bright warmth that is ‘How are you?’ or ‘I will help’ or ‘I begin to love you’; and eyes to speak, to see beyond the words, to understand, to discover.
“He gave me a heart that sees and hears and feels the earth he made, and deep within me earth-love swells to overflowing. He gave me tears of joy to shed.
“You have these things, too. They are gifts—blessings beyond our ability to receive.
“And someday when I have seen [Jesus] again
and my Father has welcomed me back, I hope, with my mate, to be able to
begin the direction of a world like this. And our children will turn in
the cold sweetness of morning light to heavens of their earth with eyes
that glisten with tears born of earth-love to say, ‘Thank you, Father’
” (Ann Busath, “Creation,” Improvement Era, Sept. 1967, p. 56).
“Homemaking, as I view it, falls into two
major divisions: homemaking and housekeeping. Homemaking takes into account
the spiritual values: love, peace, tranquility, harmony among family members,
security. It makes of a place of residence a spot to which family members
can retire from a confused and troubled world and find understanding and
rejuvenation. Its character is quietness; it evidences good taste, culture,
and refinement. Men, women, and children alike have their individual contributions
to make to good home and family life, and each shares in its benefits.
Lesson 8
“We have made covenants. We made them before we accepted our position here on the earth. …
“We committed ourselves to our Heavenly
Father, that if He would send us to the earth and give us bodies and give
to us the priceless opportunities that earth life afforded, we would keep
our lives clean and would marry in the holy temple and would rear a family
and teach them righteousness. This was a solemn oath, a solemn promise”
(“Be Ye Therefore Perfect,” address given at the Salt Lake Institute of
Religion, 10 Jan. 1975, p. 2).
“… My wife was my salvation. She comforted me and encouraged me and continued to say there was only one road to follow. …
“… I continued to tell Camilla that I was
not sure what I would do, though I knew all the time there was only one
course. She continued to encourage me and insisted that acceptance of the
call was the only thing” (Edward L. Kimball and Andrew E. Kimball Jr.,
Spencer W. Kimball [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1977], pp. 191-92).
To improve my relationship with my parents,
I will:
1. Be obedient.
2. Be loyal to them by not saying unkind
things about them or to them.
3. Be more cheerful with all family members.
4. Be a good person myself.
5. Be more helpful at home.
6. Try to understand why they are the
way they are.
7. Express my appreciation and thanks.
8. Discuss my problems, plans, and goals
with them.
9. Always let them know where I am.
“Be one who nurtures and builds. Be one
who has an understanding and a forgiving heart, who looks for the best
in people. Leave people better than you found them” (Marvin J. Ashton,
in Conference Report, Apr. 1992, p. 26; or Ensign, May 1992, p. 20).
President Spencer W. Kimball said:
“For the first decade of your life there
were joyous, happy, irresponsible days. Your parents and family protected
you, taught and fed you, clothed and sheltered you; but now in the second
decade of your life there is some relaxation of control. Gradually you
are developing your personality, making increased numbers of your own decisions.
You are maturing and assuming responsibility” (“President Kimball Speaks
Out on Planning Your Life,” New Era, Sept. 1981, p. 47).
“The Lord is very generous with the freedom
He gives us. The more we learn to follow the right, the more we are spiritually
self-reliant, the more our freedom and our independence are affirmed” (Boyd
K. Packer, “Self-reliance,” Ensign, Aug. 1975, p. 89).
“But with it all, man of himself is not
wholly self-sufficient. He is not to trust solely in his own strength,
nor in the arm of flesh. The Lord is his Counselor and Deliverer, upon
whom he must rely for guidance, direction, and inspiration” (Bruce R. McConkie,
Mormon Doctrine, 2nd ed. [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1966], pp. 701-2).
“The prerogative of sustaining the priesthood
is held by women as well as by men. There can be little inspiration and
no progress, either in the home or in the Church organization where the
women do not sustain the priesthood” (Matthew Cowley, Matthew Cowley Speaks
[Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1954], p. 194).
“Strange that I had not realized before,
but it is not as a young woman encourages a young man to go on a mission
that her greatest influence is felt. Rather it is through her actions as
she reveals her commitment and testimony to the gospel of Jesus Christ
and gives evidence through her power and influence in the advancement of
good” (“By the Way She Is,” p. 13; numbers added).
Question 1
“The Lord’s government is patriarchal
in nature. The family … is the center” (Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Doctrine,
2nd ed. [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1966], p. 559; italics added).
“ ‘Fatherhood is leadership, the most important kind of leadership. It has always been so; it will always be so. Father, with the assistance and counsel and encouragement of your eternal companion, you preside in the home’ ” (Father, Consider Your Ways [pamphlet, 1973], pp. 4-5; as cited by Ezra Taft Benson, Ensign, Nov. 1987, p. 49).
Since this is such an important concept,
you may wish to discuss the answer in greater detail. Point out that all
three of the answers given in the quiz are correct. Ask the young women
to add additional suggestions of things the father does as patriarchal
head of the home. The statements of President Benson suggest some; perhaps
you can draw from the young women other suggestions, such as setting a
righteous example, sharing his testimony and convictions, and seeing that
family members are taught correct principles.
“Fortunately, [a father is] not required
to preside and judge and act without counsel, without assistance. [He has]
a wife—a companion, a counselor, a partner, a helpmeet, a friend” (Father,
Consider Your Ways [pamphlet, n.d.], p. 3; italics added).
“To the comment, ‘My husband [or father]
is not a member of the Church, nor does he respect it,’ I with love and
compassion answer: ‘Dear Sister, whether he is a member or not, he is still
the father and head of the family. … Support him in his positive actions.
Show him that you believe in and trust his ability to direct the family.
Encourage him with noble examples” (Richard G. Scott, “Father Is Head of
the Family,” Ensign, Feb. 1977, pp. 84-85).
“The priesthood is the power of God delegated
to men to act for the blessing and salvation of all mankind. While we sometimes
refer to priesthood holders as ‘the priesthood,’ we must never forget that
the priesthood is not owned by or embodied in those who hold it. It is
held in a sacred trust to be used for the benefit of men, women, and children
alike. Elder John A. Widtsoe said, ‘Men have no greater claim than women
upon the blessings that issue from the Priesthood and accompany its possession’
(Priesthood and Church Government [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1939],
p. 83). For example, our young women should have just as many opportunities
for blessings from priesthood leaders as our young men” (Dallin H. Oaks,
in Conference Report, Apr. 1992, p. 51; or Ensign, May 1992, p. 36).
“With such a penalty prescribed for breaking it, one might be prompted to question the advisability of accepting the obligations of the covenant; that is, he might question it until he reads the verse which follows the statement of the penalty. There he learns that those who do not receive the oath and covenant are not much, if any, better off than are those who receive it and break it. For in that verse the Lord says: ‘And, wo unto all those who come not unto this priesthood which ye have received. …’ [D&C 84:42.]
“Such is the sober import of ‘the oath and covenant which belongeth to the priesthood’ ” (Elder Marion G. Romney in Conference Report, Apr. 1962, p. 18; or Improvement Era, June 1962, p. 416).
Lesson 16
“As an indication of the importance [given] to women, the Lord said,
“ ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’ (Gen. 2:24.)
“Do you note that? She, the woman, occupies
the first place. She is preeminent, even above the parents who are so dear
to all of us. Even the children must take their proper but significant
place” (President Spencer W. Kimball “The Blessings and Responsibilities
of Womanhood,” Ensign, Mar. 1976, p. 72).
“So with woman: Her special gifts are to be exercised for the benefit and uplift of the race. This equally shared responsibility makes men and women real ‘team-mates’ in that which makes for human progress. Each one is a complement to the other and neither sex alone may function completely in the world’s work” (Priesthood and Church Government, comp. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1939], p. 92; italics added).
“Never in history have women enjoyed the freedom of thought and action accorded the women of this Church. From the day of its restoration women have been accorded their full religious franchise, and in the temples of the restored Gospel a man may not partake of the highest ordinances without his wife by his side. In all life pursuits she is given her entire independence.
“This gives to woman a mighty responsibility
which, if she honors and uses, will be increased in power upon her; but
if she ignores it or treats it lightly or fails to magnify it, she may
lose that which she now possesses and thereby forfeit her birthright. For
this great privilege women of this Church should be eternally grateful
and willing to use and cherish this precious and priceless relationship.
Where much is given, much is expected” (Leah D. Widtsoe, Priesthood and
Womanhood, as quoted in Priesthood and Church Government, comp. John A.
Widtsoe, pp. 90-91).
“A covenant is a binding and solemn compact,
agreement, contract, or mutual promise between God and a single person
or a group of chosen persons” (Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Doctrine, 2nd
ed. [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1966], p. 166; italics added).
2. How is the course of your life affected if you make covenants but do not keep them? (See D&C 1:14-15; D&C 58:29; refer to Elder Cannon’s statement on page 74.) How would life be different without the blessings Elder Cannon described?
3. How is the course of your life affected
if you make covenants and remain faithful to them? (See D&C 54:6; Mosiah
5:7, Mosiah 5:15.) “God … because of his love for us, condescended to make
covenants with us, in order that we may be spared from failure, from sorrow,
from regret, and that we may rise to the full heights of glory that are
promised to those who are faithful and endure to the end” (ElRay L. Christiansen,
in Conference Report, Oct. 1972, p. 46; or Ensign, Jan. 1973, p. 51).
Elder Bruce R. McConkie:
“My wife and I were having a serious discussion
recently in which we were counting our many blessings. We named a host
of things that have come to us, because of the Church, because of our family,
because of the glorious restoration of eternal truth that has taken place
in this day; and then she climaxed the discussion by asking this question:
‘What’s the greatest blessing that has ever come into your life?’
“Without a moment’s hesitation I said, ‘The greatest blessing that has ever come to me was on the thirteenth day of October in 1937 at 11:20 A.M. when I was privileged to kneel in the Salt Lake Temple at the Lord’s altar and receive you as an eternal companion.’
“She said, ‘Well, you passed that test.’
“I believe that the most important single thing that any Latter-day Saint ever does in this world is to marry the right person, in the right place, by the right authority; and that then—when they have been so sealed by the power and authority that Elijah the prophet restored—the most important remaining thing that any Latter-day Saint can ever do is so to live that the terms and conditions of the covenant thus made will be binding and efficacious now and forever” (“Agency or Inspiration?” New Era, Jan. 1975, p. 38).
President Spencer W. Kimball said, “Only
through celestial marriage can one find the straight way, the narrow path.
Eternal life cannot be had in any other way. The Lord was very specific
and very definite in the matter of marriage” (“Marriage—The Proper Way,”
New Era, Feb. 1976, p. 6).
“The blessings and promises that come from
beginning life together, for time and eternity, in a temple of the Lord,
cannot be obtained in any other way and worthy young Latter-day Saint men
and women who so begin life together find that their eternal partnership
under the everlasting covenant becomes the foundation upon which are built
peace, happiness, virtue, love, and all of the other eternal verities of
life, here and hereafter” (Heber J. Grant, “Presidents of the Church Speak
on Temple Marriage,” New Era, June 1971, p. 8).
“Laxity in youth is as a personal note
that must be paid in age. Twenty, thirty, forty years hence, you must pay
it. Mastery and chastity are also seeds sown which will pay large dividends
in years hence, and those years pass quickly—oh, so quickly” (David O.
McKay, “The Choice of an Eternal Companion,” Improvement Era, Apr. 1965,
p. 285).
“But this is not the fulfillment of the
story of love. In the book, or the play, on the stage, the curtain comes
down here. But it is not so in real love. This is not the conclusion—only
the beginning” (Eternal Love [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1973],
p. 20).
President Spencer W. Kimball “We urge our
young people to begin today to write and keep records of all the important
things in their own lives” (“The Angels May Quote from It,” New Era, Oct.
1975, p. 4).
(Candle poem)
Lesson 21
Sister Ardeth G. Kapp:
“When you keep the commandments and follow
the Savior’s example, it’s like holding up a light. Your good example helps
others to find their way in a darkening world. It takes courage to do what
you know to be right even when it is hard, very hard. But you will never
lose your courage unless you choose to” (“Stand for Truth and Righteousness,”
Ensign, Nov. 1988, p. 94).
1. “For I have given you an example, that
ye should do as I have done to you” (John 13:15).
2. “Let no man despise thy youth; but
be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity,
in spirit, in faith, in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).
3. “Christ also suffered for us, leaving
us an example, that ye should follow his steps” (1 Peter 2:21).
4. “Let your light so shine before men,
that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in
heaven” (Matthew 5:16).
“God … has a pencil with an eraser on it and he has promised us that he will use it if we will repent and change our ways. … He has said that if we would forsake our evil and thoroughly make up our minds against it, then he would wash it out of his mind and just forget the whole thing. Of course, he expects that we will wash it out of our minds also” (Sterling W. Sill, Making the Most of Yourself [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1971], p. 93).
“Steps to Repentance:” “Recognize wrong,” “Promise not to repeat sin,” “Recommit oneself,” “Make restitution,” “Feel true sorrow,” “Allow time,” “Forgive self and others,” and “Receive forgiveness from the Lord.”
“Steps to Repentance:”
“1. Recognize we have done wrong.
“2. Covenant with the Lord that we will
never repeat the sin we have committed and are repenting of. ‘By this ye
may know if a man repenteth of his sins—behold, he will confess them and
forsake them.’ (D&C 58:43.)
“3. Recommit ourselves to living a better
life in all phases of the gospel.
“4. Make restitution for the wrongs we
have committed by—
“a. Repenting in prayer to the Lord.
“b. Confessing to our bishop … [if the
sin is a major one].
“c. Apologizing to those we have offended.
“5. The depth of our repentance must be
as deep as the sin we have committed. There is no easy way. It hurts, but
it also cleanses.
“6. Time is the next element of repentance
and restitution.
“a. Time to prove to ourselves, to our
Lord, to our fellowmen that we have committed ourselves to a new way of
life.
“b. Time to study the scriptures and dedicate
our lives to the commandments we learn we must live to be happy and have
joy.
“7. Complete forgiveness of ourselves
and forgiveness without any feelings of retribution toward those who have
offended us.
“8. Finally, the greatest of all blessings:
the forgiveness of the Lord. We no longer look back with depression and
hurt, but forward to the future with hope and joy and love for God, self,
and all mankind” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1976, p. 34; or Ensign, Nov.
1976, p. 26).
Elder Robert D. Hales
“Repentance is given as the second great principle of the gospel. …
“We all make mistakes. If our repentance is sincere, we have the right to approach [Heavenly Father] for forgiveness, but remember we are not entitled to any quota of mistakes. It is always better that we don’t make them. And surely we shouldn’t go on stupidly or stubbornly repeating the same old mistakes over and over again. We ought to have learned our lessons. It isn’t enough to be just as good today as we were yesterday. We should be better. … But one of the most devilish doctrines that anyone could advocate would be to say that because someone has made a mistake, it wouldn’t matter if he made one more, or many more. The best time to repent is now, before the next time” (Richard L. Evans, in Conference Report, Oct. 1969, p. 68; or Improvement Era, Dec. 1969, pp. 74, 76).
“Repentance is indispensable to the growing life, since in all growth there is constant adjustment, taking on and sloughing off. We cannot replace a bad life with a good one by any single word or act; there must be a continuing process of replacing error and wrong-doing with truth and right-doing; of going from bad to good and from good to better. …
“When we speak of the continual need of
repentance, let it not be understood that we refer to a cycle of sinning
and repenting and sinning again. That is not complete repentance. We must
see the right and follow it, recognize the wrong and forsake it with a
‘Godly sorrow’ if we would obtain the blessings of complete repentance”
(Hugh B. Brown, Eternal Quest, comp. Charles Manley Brown [Salt Lake City:
Bookcraft, 1956], pp. 99, 102).
“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).
“Biblical history tells us that no mortal man has ever been subjected to the humility, the pain, the suffering that were experienced by the Savior of the world during his final hours of mortality.
“Following a number of false charges, he was betrayed by one considered to be among his closest circle of friends. He was then subjected to a so-called trial, which produced a sentence that was dictated by political convenience and public sentiment rather than justice.”
“Then in rapid agonizing succession: there
was the long struggle to Calvary as he bore the heavy cross; he was jeered
at and spat upon by the multitude all along the way; there was the offering
of vinegar, climaxed by the cruel spikes; and finally, there he hung, his
body broken and bleeding, still taunted by his enemies; and it was in the
midst of all this that Jesus pled perhaps quietly, with deep reverence,
‘Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. …’ (Luke 23:34.)”
(Robert L. Simpson, in Conference Report, Oct. 1966, p. 128; or Improvement
Era, Dec. 1966, p. 1148).
“A common error is the idea that the offender
must apologize and humble himself to the dust before forgiveness is required.
Certainly, the one who does the injury should totally make his adjustment,
but as for the offended one, he must forgive the offender regardless of
the attitude of the other [party]” (The Miracle of Forgiveness [Salt Lake
City: Bookcraft, 1969], p. 282).
“As you feel the need to confide in the
Lord or to improve the quality of your visits with him—to pray, if you
please—may I suggest a process to follow: go where you can be alone, go
where you can think, go where you can kneel, go where you can speak out
loud to him. The bedroom, the bathroom, or the closet will do. Now, picture
him in your mind’s eye. Think to whom you are speaking, control your thoughts—don’t
let them wander, address him as your Father and your friend. Now tell him
things you really feel to tell him—not trite phrases that have little meaning,
but have a sincere, heartfelt conversation with him. Confide in him, ask
him for forgiveness, plead with him, enjoy him, thank him, express your
love to him, and then listen for his answers. … Answers from the Lord come
quietly—ever so quietly. In fact, few hear his answers audibly with their
ears. We must be listening so carefully or we will never recognize them.
Most answers from the Lord are felt in our heart as a warm comfortable
expression, or they may come as thoughts to our mind. They come to those
who are prepared and who are patient” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1973,
p. 13; or Ensign, Jan. 1974, p. 19).
“Meditation is one of the most secret,
most sacred doors through which we pass into the presence of the Lord”
(Man May Know for Himself, comp. Clare Middlemiss [Salt Lake City: Deseret
Book Co., 1969], pp. 22-23).
“Ponder on things a little each day and don’t always be in the crisis of making major decisions on the spur of the moment. …
“I have learned that the best time to wrestle
with major problems is early in the morning. … The blackboard of your mind
has been erased by a good night’s rest. The accumulated distractions of
the day are not in your way. Your body has been rested also. That’s the
time to think something through very carefully and to receive personal
revelation” (“Self-reliance,” Ensign, Aug. 1975, p. 88).
“Too frequently we come to worship and to leave our offerings without attempting to prepare our inner selves to the same degree of perfection that we achieve in our outward dress and grooming” (Robert L. Simpson, in Conference Report, Oct. 1966, p. 129; or Improvement Era, Dec. 1966, p. 1148).
“The purpose of the Sabbath is for spiritual uplift, for a renewal of our covenants, for worship, for rest, for prayer. It is for the purpose of feeding the spirit, that we may keep ourselves unspotted from the world by obeying God’s command” (God, Family, Country: Our Three Great Loyalties [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1974], pp. 10-14).
“In this, our day, the Lord has put great emphasis on observance of the Sabbath day. …
“Because we live in a Sabbath-breaking society, we must … live in the world but not be of the world. …
“We need not shop on the Sabbath day. There will be no shopping in the city of Zion on the Sabbath.
“We need not attend recreational events, nor hunt or fish on the Sabbath.
“If we are really intent … , we will on
the Sabbath day live within the framework of the instructions given by
the Lord in … the Doctrine and Covenants” (Marion G. Romney, in Conference
Report, Apr. 1974, pp. 116-17; or Ensign, May 1974, p. 80).
A testimony is sure knowledge received
from the Holy Ghost that:
a. Jesus is the Son of God and Savior
of the world.
b. Joseph Smith is the prophet through
whom God restored the gospel.
c. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day
Saints is the only true Church and is led by a prophet today.
“I opened it with eagerness, and read its title page. I then read the testimony of several witnesses in relation to the manner of its being found and translated. After this I commenced its contents by course. I read all day; eating was a burden, I had no desire for food; sleep was a burden when the night came, for I preferred reading to sleep.
“As I read, the spirit of the Lord was
upon me, and I knew and comprehended that the book was true, as plainly
and manifestly as a man comprehends and knows that he exists. My joy was
now full, as it were, and I rejoiced sufficiently to more than pay me for
all the sorrows, sacrifices and toils of my life” (Autobiography of Parley
P. Pratt [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1938], p. 37).
“1. Pray always before you begin to read the scriptures. Slow your mind down and be free from this world. Also, pray all the while you read—as certain concepts of the gospel illuminate your soul or as you have questions. Don’t hesitate to call upon your Father.
“2. Keep a paper and pencil handy while you read. This is a stimulating activity, and often goals, exciting ideas, or original thoughts will creep into a stale mind.
“3. Go slowly! This study is not a race. No longer do you have to finish a prescribed number of chapters before you go to bed. Spend several days with a single chapter or verse. Memorize scripture and it will bloom with hidden meanings you hadn’t been cognizant of, meanings pertinent to your life today.
“4. Ask questions as you read the scriptures. … Question and then call upon the Lord. As I questioned, the doors of my heart unfolded and left room for the Holy Ghost to dwell in me.
“5. Stop many times during the day and
ponder the single thought that you have searched out in depth. For instance,
consider the truth ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’ Repeat the scripture,
question your every action, and keep the thought with you on a small card.
“All of this is a matter of making yourself
take the time; it’s a daily renewal. You’ll be gratified as it refreshes
your viewpoint. There will be a new direction in your life and even daily
revelation.
“All this pondering leads to the true and deep understanding of the gospel, our mission, and God’s glory. Many times as you ponder you pave the way for the sweet peace of the Holy Ghost to enter your heart and illuminate your entire being with truth. …
“[President] Joseph Fielding Smith said,
‘All my life I have studied and pondered the principles of the gospel and
sought to live the laws of the Lord. As a result there has come into my
heart a great love for him and for his work and for all those who seek
to further his purposes in the earth’ (Conference Report, Oct. 1971, p.
6; italics added).
“[The Savior said,] ‘I leave these sayings with you to ponder in your hearts, with this commandment which I give unto you, that ye shall call upon me while I am near—
“ ‘Draw near unto me and I will draw near
unto you’ (D&C 88:62-63)” (Susan Hill, “Pondering Isn’t Preposterous,”
New Era, May 1976, pp. 49-50).
“Satan has no power over us except as we
give it to him. … God never forces us to do right, and Satan has no power
to force us to do wrong” (Sterling W. Sill, in Conference Report, Apr.
1970, pp. 29-30; or Improvement Era, June 1970, p. 45).
“No doubt one of the most infamous snares
set out by the adversary is that of unchastity” (ElRay L. Christiansen,
in Conference Report, Oct. 1974, p. 29; or Ensign, Nov. 1974, p. 24).
“My dear friends, you are a royal generation.
You were preserved to come to the earth in this time for a special purpose.
Not just a few of you, but all of you. There are things for each of you
to do that no one else can do as well as you. … If you will let Him, I
testify that our Father in Heaven will walk with you through the journey
of life and inspire you to know your special purpose here” (H. Burke Peterson,
“Your Life Has a Purpose,” New Era, May 1979, p. 5).
“… Building his kingdom has always been
the theme of his people. … It is our charge to build Zion—not yet the Lord’s
own city of Zion, but the religious, social, and economic order that must
precede his coming as a standard to the nations. (D&C 64:42.) We must
prepare a generation of sanctified saints who are ready to receive their
King. ‘Wherefore, stand ye in holy places, and be not moved, until the
day of the Lord come‘ “ (Courtney Lassetter, “When He Comes Again,” Ensign,
June 1976, pp. 68-70; italics added).
“The Lord has chosen a small number of choice spirits … to come forth in the last day … to organize the Kingdom of God upon the earth, to build it up and to defend it” (Wilford Woodruff, as quoted in Our Lineage [course of study for genealogy classes, 1933], pt. 1, p. 4).
2. “You are not just ordinary young men and young women. You are choice spirits, many of you having been held back in reserve for almost 6,000 years to come forth in this day, at this time when the temptations, responsibilities, and opportunities are the very greatest. …
“… We pray that you will be prepared for the reins of leadership. …
“… I pray that you—the young and rising generation—will keep your bodies and minds clean, free from the contaminations of the world, that you will be fit and pure vessels to bear off the kingdom of God triumphant in preparation for the second coming of our Savior” (Ezra Taft Benson, in Conference Report, Oct. 1977, pp. 43, 46-47; or Ensign, Nov. 1977, pp. 30, 32).
3. “The Lord has now sent a wonderful generation of youth who will not be men and women to be conquered. …
“Remember, my young friends, you must be lean and hard. You must be fit for the race. You must place character, integrity, and principles of truth as the guiding lights for the dark days ahead. …
“Future greatness … awaits those who are pure and true to the teachings and example of the Master” (Vaughn J. Featherstone, “These Are Not Men to Be Conquered,” New Era, Apr. 1980, p. 5).
4. “Sisters, you were not born at this time and place by chance. You are here because this is where the Lord wants you to be. …
“… Strong women are needed, women who will stay morally clean when all about them do not, women who will establish homes that are a little bit of heaven and where the family is upheld and little children are cared for and given love and attention by their own mothers, women who will shun pornography—not just older women, but young women too, who will seek personal and social refinement, who will strive to become more cultured, who will respect the authority of the home and the priesthood. As the Church grows, there will be a need for more women who are leaders, for more women everywhere who have the courage to proclaim their testimony of Jesus Christ, women who will pray and study to find out what the Lord requires of them and who will then make right choices and put themselves in the hands of the Lord” (Betty E. Brown, in Conference Report, Melbourne Australia Area Conference 1976, p. 29).
5. “You, our youth of today, are among
the most illustrious spirits to be born into mortality in any age of the
world. … Be prepared to become leaders in that glorious millennial day
when Christ himself will reign as King of Kings and Lord of Lords” (Harold
B. Lee, Happiness through Faith in Jesus Christ [family home evening manual,
1977-78], pp. 34, 39).
“By Love Serve One Another” (Galatians
5:13)
“ ‘Mia Maid girls and teachers … have many
activities of a social nature planned for them, both in their school and
Church programs, which they should enjoy in groups. They should avoid boy-girl
single-dating relationships’ ” (“Policies and Procedures,” New Era, Jan.
1971, p. 30).
“Young people should still limit the close
contacts for several years, since the boy will be going on his mission
when he is 19 years old. There should be limited contacts and certainly
no approach to the intimate relationships involving sex. There must never
be any sex of any kind prior to marriage” (“Marriage—The Proper Way,” New
Era, Feb. 1976, p. 5).
“… ‘There are so many things for girls
to do instead of just waiting [to turn sixteen to date]. Girls can reach
out, recognize where they are now and enjoy today instead of just waiting
for tomorrow to happen’ ” (Ruth H. Funk, quoted by Gerry Avant, “Pre-dating
Years: A Vital Season,” Church News, 3 Dec. 1977, p. 9).
“ ‘A girl who has many friends seems to be the one who will attract even more. As she enlarges her circle of friends, others will be drawn in. While she may not be dating, she’ll be sharing experiences, building memories and having fun.
“ ‘If a girl becomes anxious at times, or impatient about waiting to date, she should remember to talk with her Heavenly Father about the matter.’
“… The preparation years, which are vitally needed, should not be too soon interrupted by early dating. ‘A girl should handle this time of her life carefully, waiting for the proper season so that when her associations do bring her into a dating pattern then she is prepared to recognize the qualities that she wants to emulate. …
“ ‘The pre-dating years, if used properly, can give a girl experiences that will help her develop characteristics that will allow her to be a powerful, positive influence upon others.’
“… Without the required time of preparation a girl’s associations can be very shallow. ‘Without the preparation time, a girl will be ill-prepared for the responsibilities that go with dating and strengthening others as well as herself’ ” (Ardeth G. Kapp, quoted by Avant, Church News, 3 Dec. 1977, pp. 9, 14).
“Firesides may create friendships, and inspire the spirit and train the mind. Group picnics can discipline youth in gentle manners and fellowship and extend circles of intimate friends.
“Sports can develop the body in strength and endurance. They can train the spirit to meet difficulties and defeats and successes, teach selflessness and understanding, and develop good sportsmanship and tolerance in participant and spectator. Drama can develop talent, teach patience, and foster fellowship and friendliness. Group music activities have similar effects, and also can soften and mellow the spirit and satisfy the aesthetic needs. …
“Well-ordered dances provide favorable places, pleasing times and auspicious circumstances in which to meet new people and to enlarge circles of friends. They can be an open door to happiness. In an evening of pleasurable dancing and conversation, one can become acquainted with many splendid young folk, every one of whom has admirable traits and may be superior to any one companion in at least some qualities. Here partners can begin to appraise and evaluate, noting qualities, attainments and superiorities by comparison and contrast. Such perceptive friendships can be the basis for wise, selective, occasional dating for those of sufficient age and maturity, this to be followed later in proper timing by steady dating, and later by proper courtship which culminates in a happy, never-ending marriage” (Spencer W. Kimball, The Miracle of Forgiveness [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1969], pp. 221-22).
“One of the false notions of our society
is that we are victims of our appetites and passions. But the truth is
that the body is controlled by the spirit which inhabits it” (Terrance
D. Olson, “Teaching Morality to Your Children,” Ensign, Mar. 1981, p. 14).
“Tragedy … often begins with a visit to
an [inappropriate] motion picture theater or fingering through an obscene
magazine. The path to the grievous sins of fornication, adultery, and homosexuality
can begin … with the viewing of some of the sex- and violence-oriented
programs now being shown on television, including network television” (in
Conference Report, Oct. 1976, p. 6; or Ensign, Nov. 1976, p. 6).
President Kimball also warned about the
evils of pornography found in every form of mass media: “There is a link
between pornography and … perversions. … It is ridiculous to imply that
pornography has no effect. There is a definite relationship to crime. Murder,
robbery, rape, prostitution, and commercialized vice are fed on this immorality.
Sex crime statistics seem to reflect a relationship between crime and pornography”
(President Spencer W. Kimball in Conference Report, Oct. 1974, p. 7; or
Ensign, Nov. 1974, p. 7).
Guidelines for Evaluating Media
Vice is a monster of so frightful mien,
As to be hated needs but to be seen;
Yet seen too oft, familiar with her face,
We first endure, then pity, then embrace.
(Alexander Pope, “An Essay on Man,” epistle
2, lines 217-21.)
“Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly”
(D&C 121:45).
“ ‘We may not, under our duty, provide
or tolerate an unwholesome amusement on the theory that if we do not provide
it the youth will go elsewhere to get it. We could hardly set up a roulette
table in the church amusement hall for gambling purposes, with the excuse
that if we do not provide it the youth would go to a gambling hall to gamble.
We can never really hold our youth thus.’
“May I withstand worldly pressures today so I may reign in celestial glory in the eternities.”
“Daniel was brought into a strange land
as a youth—a land with strange customs, a strange tongue, strange environment,
and a strange [religion]. … His first test … came when the king ordered
that [those who had been brought to Babylon were to] drink of his wine
and eat of his rich food. Daniel understood from the commandments that
he had been taught by his parents, the commandments of the Lord, that these
things were not good for his body. … Daniel and his friends [had been]
taught to keep the commandments of God. … Daniel begged that he and his
friends be allowed to follow the health rules that had been given to them.”
He suggested a ten-day test to see which kind of diet would be better.
(See L. Tom Perry, “In the World,” Speeches of the Year, 1981 [Provo: Brigham
Young University Press, 1981], pp. 2-7.)
“Truth Does Not Change.”
Elder Delbert L. Stapley said: “There is
a close relationship between physical health and spiritual development.
… When one’s physical health is impaired by disobedience to God’s eternal
laws, spiritual development will also suffer” (in Conference Report, Oct.
1967, p. 74; or Improvement Era, Dec. 1967, p. 77).
“The reason undoubtedly why the Word of
Wisdom was given—as not by ‘commandment or restraint’ was that at that
time, at least, if it had been given as a commandment it would have brought
every man, addicted to the use of these noxious things, under condemnation;
so the Lord was merciful and gave them a chance to overcome, before He
brought them under the law. Later on, it was announced from this stand,
by President Brigham Young, that the Word of Wisdom was a revelation and
a command of the Lord. I desired to mention that fact, because I do not
want you to feel that we are under no restraint. We do not want to come
under condemnation” (Joseph F. Smith, in Conference Report, Oct. 1913,
p. 14).
1 Corinthians 3:17: “For the temple of
God is holy, which temple ye are.”
“I want to emphasize that if you never take the first you will never take the second. You will never become an alcoholic or an addict” (N. Eldon Tanner, in Conference Report, Apr. 1975, p. 114; or Ensign, May 1975, p. 77).
True or False Test
1. The best way to stop bleeding is to
apply pressure with a cloth pad or the palm of the hand directly to the
wound.
2. A respiratory emergency occurs when
breathing stops and the choking victim cannot speak. Use the Heimlich maneuver.
3. Do not attempt procedures you know
nothing about because you may cause further injury. Get expert help as
quickly as possible.
4. Do not move an injured person until
medical aid arrives unless the victim is in further danger where he or
she is.
5. If the victim has swallowed harmful
chemicals or poisons, call the poison control center or nearest hospital
for directions before doing anything.
6. Never give an unconscious patient food
or water.
7. During mouth-to-mouth resuscitation,
the patient’s head should be tilted back so the chin is pointing upward.
The nose should be gently squeezed shut to prevent air from leaking through
the nostrils.
8. To prevent an injured person from going
into shock, the person should be kept lying down and covered with a blanket
if he or she is cool.
9. A first-aider’s calm, reassuring attitude
comforts the victim and calms fears that might increase his or her chance
of shock.
10. A cold compress applied to a bruise
lessens the chance of swelling and bleeding under the tissues.
11. A tourniquet is a dangerous way to
stop bleeding and is no longer an acceptable first-aid technique unless
severe bleeding cannot be stopped any other way.
12. A minor abrasion caused by rubbing
or scraping the skin should be washed with soap and water to prevent infection.
13. If a person accidentally gets chemicals
in the eye, quickly wash the eye with large amounts of water. Soak a clean
washcloth in cool, running water and squeeze the water into the corner
of the eye with the patient’s head tipped so the water will run out of
the outer edge of the eye. Repeat procedure to get out all irritants.
14. Everyone should learn to protect himself
or herself from excessive heat or cold.
15. Never move a fracture victim unless
absolutely necessary.
16. A person who receives a severe blow
to the head should be given medical attention, even if he or she is conscious,
and should be carefully watched for twenty-four to forty-eight hours after.
17. Never leave a child unattended in
a closed car, especially in hot weather.
18. The best way to put out a fire on
someone’s clothing is to roll the victim up in a carpet or blanket or roll
him or her on the ground.
19. You should memorize or keep handy
the emergency phone number in your area.
20. Keep all chemicals and poisons out
of children’s reach.
(Adapted from the Relief Society Courses
of Study, 1976-77, pp. 39-66.)
“One of the greatest weaknesses in most
of us is our lack of faith in ourselves. One of our common failings is
to depreciate our tremendous worth” (L. Tom Perry, “Be the Best of Whatever
You Are,” in Speeches of the Year, 1974 [Provo: Brigham Young University
Press, 1975], p. 77).
“Every human being in every walk of life needs help in building his self-respect and self-reliance. … A person’s image of himself is nothing more or less than what he has learned through his experiences and his interactions with others. It is rewarding to note that someone has helped a typical boy develop his personal identity. Someone, perhaps a mother, a Primary teacher, a neighbor, or even a song like ‘I Am a Child of God,’ has made this little boy realize he is someone. He knew he wasn’t junk. He knew he wasn’t impossible. He knew he was a human being loved by his Heavenly Father” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1981, p. 125; or Ensign, Nov. 1981, p. 89).
Eleanor Roosevelt is remembered for her
insight when she said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your
consent” (“Points to Ponder,” Reader’s Digest, Feb. 1963, p. 261).
Lesson 43
“I do not know of anything that brings
more happiness than to realize that what we have done or are doing is correct
and right” (Rex D. Pinegar, “What It Means to Establish a Relationship
with Christ,” in Speeches of the Year, 1977 [Provo: Brigham Young University
Press, 1978], p. 91).
President Brigham Young:
“Time is all the capital stock there is
on the earth; … if properly used, it brings that which will add to your
comfort, convenience, and satisfaction. Let us consider this, and no longer
sit with hands folded, wasting time” (Discourses of Brigham Young, sel.
John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1941], p. 214).
“No true Latter-day Saint, while physically
or emotionally able will voluntarily shift the burden of his own or his
family’s well-being to someone else. So long as he can, under the inspiration
of the Lord and with his own labors, he will supply himself and his family
with the spiritual and temporal necessities of life” (Spencer W. Kimball,
in Conference Report, Oct. 1977, p. 124; or Ensign, Nov. 1977, pp. 77-78).
“There is no shame in any honorable work”
(Boyd K. Packer, in Conference Report, Apr. 1982, p. 121; or Ensign, May
1982, p. 84).
“The Church from the beginning has been committed to the principle that ‘the glory of God is intelligence.’ (D&C 93:36.) We therefore encourage our people to study and prepare to render service with their minds and with their hands.
“Some are inclined toward formal university training, and some are inclined more toward the practical vocational training. We feel that our people should receive that kind of training which is most consistent with their interests and talents. Whether it be in the professions, the arts, or the vocations; whether it be university or vocational training, we applaud and encourage it” (Spencer W. Kimball, in Conference Report, Oct. 1977, pp. 4-5; or Ensign, Nov. 1977, p. 4).
“Education has always been recognized by the Church as the number one obligation of each generation to its successor and of each individual to himself. Each one of us is a divinely endowed, eternal, and intelligent being. It is incumbent upon us, therefore, to encourage and keep alive the questing spirit, to learn and continue to learn everything possible about ourselves, our fellowmen, our universe, and our God” (Hugh B. Brown, in Conference Report, Apr. 1968, p. 101; or Improvement Era, June 1968, p. 34).
“There are impelling reasons for our sisters to plan toward employment. … We want them to obtain all the education and vocational training possible before marriage. If they become widowed or divorced and need to work, we want them to have dignified and rewarding employment. If a sister does not marry, she has every right to engage in a profession that allows her to magnify her talents and gifts” (Howard W. Hunter, Ensign, Nov. 1975, p. 124).
“Too great care cannot be taken in educating
our young ladies. Great responsibilities will devolve upon them. To their
hands will be mainly committed the formation of the moral and intellectual
character of the young. Let the women of our country be made intelligent,
and their children will certainly be the same. The proper education of
a man decides his welfare; but the interests of a whole family are secured
by the correct education of a woman” (George Q. Cannon, Gospel Truth, sel.
Jerreld L. Newquist [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1974], 2:138).
Helen Lee Goates, commented:
“ ‘How carefully [our parents] nurtured
our tender feelings about ourselves! When the early years of striving to
master musical instruments brought discouragement and possible failure
into view, we were reinforced regularly by the positive, firm assurance
that our Daddy and Mother thought we made the most beautiful music this
side of heaven. When those awkward adolescent years were upon us, with
their insecurities and daily threats to self-esteem, we were constantly
reminded that Mother and Daddy loved us and that they were convinced that
we were the loveliest, most charming young women they had ever seen. Wise
parents that they were, they must have known that if they placed those
images before us, we would strive to be what they wanted us to be, and
what they knew we could become’ ” (in Neal A. Maxwell, That My Family Should
Partake [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1974], pp. 56-57).
Lesson 48
Chinese proverb: “The journey of a thousand
miles begins with one step.”
Lesson 49
5 Steps of Delegation
Step 1: Clearly define the assignment.
Step 2: Describe the importance of the
assignment and express confidence.
Step 3: Establish who will do what and
when it will be finished.
Step 4: Decide when you will follow up
on the assignment.
Step 5: Express encouragement and thanks.